The Law of Attraction and Gratitude – For Real?
Have you heard that gratitude is critical when working with the law of attraction to manifest the things that you want?
Does it seem elusive, like, you do everything the gurus tell you do, but you don’t really see the results you want?
Yeah me too.
I’ve wondered if it is all a useless bunny trail until I saw it play out first hand. First off, thanks for spending your time with me. I hope you stick with me here for the next 5-10 minutes, while I unpack exactly step-by-step how you can have access to a whole new level of genuine gratitude that could quite possibly make the biggest difference in your life, so, you can attract good things into your life.
What is the Power of Gratitude as it relates to the Law of Attraction?
The power of gratitude is a pretty straight-forward, right?
Here is the concept boiled down to the most basic idea:
What you put out into the universe is what you will get back. If you focus on and have a grateful heart toward the things that you like about your life, you will get more of that.
It’s simple enough, but how do you implement it in real life?
There was a study done in 2000 that revealed that humans recognize negative emotions on people’s faces faster than positive feelings. We are wired to perceive (and focus on) threat. You can read more about what stops us in one of my other articles.
We are wired to be concerned with survival.
Ask yourself if survival is at the heart of why you are journaling, doing your gratitude affirmations, and trying to focus on positive things. Survival, by its nature, is largely fear based thinking.
Have you ever had this thought? If I don’t write what I’m thankful for down today (if that is the exercise you are doing), I might not be able to manifest what I want.
My point is that you might want the new house, new car, more money, etc. so you don’t have to worry so much about your life. What I have discovered is that the more I focus in this way, the worse it gets.
Survival as a mentality doesn’t give you access to the power of gratitude. It typically gives you access to more negative thoughts.
The biggest problem with the feeling of gratitude is that we can fool ourselves.
I think if you ask almost anyone whether they have feelings of gratitude, they would say yes. However, if you actually look closely at their lives, you’d probably notice that they aren’t attracting all of the wonderful things they want, and that current circumstances aren’t what they are hoping for.
It’s like heading east looking for a sunset. Light and darkness can’t fill the same room. It’s like listening to a good friend when you are exhausted. You might be physically there, but mentally, you are checked out.
When it comes to gratitude, think of it the same way, but it’s a matter of the heart.
The first step is looking at the heart of what has you trying to the find the best ways to manifest your new reality.
If it is because you have areas of your life that you don’t like, i.e. not enough money, difficult time at work, or lack inner peace, you may find it difficult to get happy.
Maintaining a positive outlook in the face of setbacks is tough. Don’t set yourself up for failure.
Where’s the disconnect between gratitude, the law of attraction, and manifesting the lives we want?
Understanding this part is relatively easy.
The subconscious mind is what controls 98% of our behavior. But, we think that the conscious mind does. Most of us aren’t aware that in order to achieve anything that we deem of value, we will need to learn to shift our subconscious mind, and that’s the hard part; the hard work, nobody wants to do.
The not so easy part is reprogramming the subconscious mind.
I’ll talk more about this in a second, but first, let’s go back to your vision board, how you express gratitude, and to discovering the fastest way to get the results you want on a regular basis.
Keeping a Law of Attraction Jounal
One possible way to access higher levels of manifestation is by keeping a law of attraction gratitude journal, and it is for good reason.
It can help you to tone down the negative energy, limiting beliefs about things like the lack of money or focusing on negative aspects of your life.
Here is why (and when) it is most effective.
Writing Activates Special Parts of The Brain Causing you to Think
What you think about, you bring about.Bob Proctor
A lot of people don’t know that when you start writing something, it causes you to think? Martin Lotze of the German University of Greifswald showed this in his 2013 research: Neural correlates of creative writing: an fMRI study that brainstorming, creative writing (so not copying) activates specific areas of the brain. This Here is the source: https://scholar.google.de/scholar?oi=bibs&cluster=4757306628052233885&btnI=1&hl=de
The best way to do it is to find a quiet place and spend a few minutes jotting down what you are grateful for at the present moment.
What’s important here is to pay attention to how you feel while doing this.
I’ll say more about this in a moment.
How do you access the power of gratitude?
For a long time (and I’m not talking about just a couple of weeks), I kept a gratitude journal. Each morning, I got up and wrote down 10-20 things I was grateful for.
The goal of the exercise was to get myself into a state of gratitude so I could shift my personal energy into more positive vibrations. It seemed like a nice way of getting into the rubber meets the road, real practice of gratitude. The idea behind it all: These positive vibrations generate more positive thoughts. The positive thoughts generate positive emotions which in turn draw more amazing things into your life.
While it can be a great way to express gratitude, it often felt a bit like I was just going through the motions. Rather than cultivating an attitude of gratitude, it began to see it as a chore. I think I was doing it primarily in hope of being able to manifest a better life, and secondarily to say “I had done it.” Gold star for Paul. LOL
Cultivating the Right Foundation for the Power of Gratitude to Work
I discovered my longterm strides in jounaling were mostly based in survival.
Ocassionally, I’d feel a breakthrough moment in which I felt a shift, but more often than not, I felt like I was writing a list of the things I should be grateful for almost like a school assignment.
So, what do you do about this kind of thing? The goal is to do something that gets you to stop and unplug from any negativity and provides a way for your mind to clear, get present and centered.
A quick list of things that can put you in a vibrational match with gratitude might look like this (just off the top of my head):
- Meditation and Prayer
- Gratitude Journal
- Positive Affirmations
- A Hobby You Enjoy
- Take a Ride in Your Favorite Vehicle
- Take a Meditative Walk
- Walk Your Dog
- Spending Time with Someone You Care About
- Lying in a Warm Bed
- Sitting on a Park Bench in Quiet Reflection
You get the idea. Even if you can’t get there physically, you can go there in your head. It’s helpful to think of gratitude as a place or space that you go to.
What gets you into a positive vibration specifically will vary from person to person.
In the end it’s about the feelings you generate while doing the exercise. The exercise is really beside the point.
Why You Aren’t Manifesting What You Want
Using Positive Affirmations to Access Gratitude
Maybe you have used (if you haven’t I highly suggest it) the following statement followed by your particular aspirations as a powerful postive affirmation to help you attract what you want into your life. I learned it from Bob Proctor.
I’m so happy and grateful now that …
Just fill in your goal after that statement on a card and carry it around with each day.
Here are some examples you can use:
I’m so happy and grateful now that:
- Money comes to me easily and regularly
- I’ve landed the most fulfilling job ever
- I’m working where I have always wanted
- I’ve met the person of my dreams
- My marriage is fulfilling, and we are in harmony
- I feel loved and have many friends
- I’m driving my beautiful (insert favorite car)
- I’m enjoying my new house
- I love where I live
- I get to take this vacation
Generally speaking the more detailed and vivid the better.
This will keep your mind focused on what you are wanting to manifest.
What to do when it doesn’t seem to be working
One of the most important things to keep an eye on is how you feel when you read your statement.
If it is a constant reminder of the lack of getting to your desire, then, you are not on the right track.
I find it helpful to see anything that I perceive as a setback from my goal as contrast that helps be get more clear on what I actually want.
Gratitude is a Realm You Enter Into or Come From, Not Just a Feeling
It’s helpful to think of gratitude as a space or room you can move in and out of.
The best way I think you can get an understanding of this is by checking out the yellow room art exhibit by Olafur Eliasson.
Olafur Eliasson created an art project that is mind blowing.
Picture this, you walk into a room filled with yellow lights. Once inside the only colors you can see are shades of yellow gray and black. All other colors are completely muted in the room.
People that have visited the art exhibit have reported all kinds of experiences. One of the most profound is that after a little while, your brain starts to interpret color differently. It’s a one of kind experience to understand that your perception frames everything.
People come to realize that things they were sure about like color shifted in this setting. The reality is that the human eye has cones that see red, green, and blue. Without the cones, you would not perceive color.
Think of gratitude as a color. Imagine you were to walk into a room that has nothing but red lights. Everyone and everything in the room have a red hue.
I’ve said it this way because it’s important to understand that gratitude is a place you go, a space you hold, an experience rather than a feeling.