Why Does He Stare At Me So Intensely? -35 Important Reasons


If a guy makes intense, prolonged eye contact with you, there is a good chance he likes what he sees. Consider the gesture a sign of positive body language.

Guys are visual, if a guy stares at you without looking away, the likely reason is that he thinks you are the perfect combination of cute and sexy.

Before we talk about sexual attraction and spend a lot of time dissecting what you should do the next time you are in this situation, let’s talk about what the general reasons are related to when a guy doesn’t break eye contact or keeps following you with his eyes.

Generally speaking, there are two main reasons why a man stares: interest or annoyance. The possible reasons for both can be a wide range of different things, and it might be a good idea to rely on your intuition and social cognition to decide on the right thing to do.

See more general information for intense eye contact here.

If a man looks at you intently and holds intense eye contact with you, a common reason is that he is trying to figure you out. In the intense stare, he is looking for something deeper.

It can be a wonderful thing if you are attracted to him and a really strange thing if you aren’t remotely interested in taking things to the next level. If it’s a murderous look or a rude stare, you might want to leave the social event as fast as possible.

But in this article, let’s explore a number of reasons that catching a guy with the look of love in his eyes or making strong eye contact for no apparent reason actually means.

When a Guy Locks eyes with You and Doesn’t Look Away

If he makes direct eye contact, and you return the deep eye contact for a long time, you most likely notice that it triggers a deeper emotional response. If you have ever thought “he keeps looking into my eyes” or
he looks into my eyes when he talks to me (for more than 3 seconds at a time), you might get butterflies in your stomach or get turned off. That’s because this type of eye contact elicits a response.

The best thing to do is to pay attention to how it makes you feel. If you willfully return the deep gaze, you will most likely create sexual tension.

Whether it is a good thing or not will most likely depend on the situation and whether you are open to the next step.

If it’s a random guy, you are out and about and you notice a non-creepy guy staring at you, it’s a good sign. But if you aren’t a slight bit interested in him, you might not want to pay much attention to it so you don’t elicit the wrong thing or behavior.

Decoding Deep Eye Contact From a Man

Figure Out the Most Likely Reasons Why He is Staring:

Here are the Top 35 Reasons

He is captivated by you


He’s trying to figure out if you’re single.


He likes what he sees and wants to get to know you better.


He’s wondering if you’re interested in him.


He thinks you’re beautiful and can’t help but stare.


He’s attracted to you and is trying to gauge your interest.


He’s trying to make a connection with you even if it is to become a new guy friend.


He’s trying to send you a message without saying anything (like watch out).


He’s checking you out and sees something he likes.


He thinks you look familiar and is trying to place where he knows you from and whether you are the right person.


He’s lost in thought and you just happen to be the object of his gaze.


He’s trying to figure out your body language.


He’s trying to determine if you’re approachable.


He’s hoping you’ll notice him staring and give him an opening to make the first move.


He’s trying to make eye contact so he can hold your gaze and let you know he’s interested.


He’s trying to read your facial expression and check in on you emotionally.


He’s curious about you and is hoping to learn more by staring intently.


He’s trying to figure out what kind of person you are.


He’s trying to decide if you’re someone he’d like to get to know better.


He’s hoping you’ll give him a sign that it’s okay to talk to you.


He’s just really interested in you and wants to take the opportunity to stare.


He’s trying to gauge your reaction to him staring at you.


He’s hoping you’ll find his staring flattering and give him a positive response.


He’s trying to figure out if you’re interested in him and if you give him easier access before he makes a move.


He’s trying to make a good impression and show you that he’s interested.


He’s giving you a clear sign of romantic interest.


He is showing you he has a physical attraction to you.


He’s trying to stare you down in a show of dominance to give his own ego a boost.


He likes your new look (if you’ve been around each other, and you recently changed up your wardrobe).


He’s a shy guy and he’s trying to get a better look at you.


He’s offering you a sign of affection.


He’s dealing with complex emotions and isn’t aware of how much eye contact he is giving you.


He likes your energy.


He’s enjoying seeing you have a good time and is experiencing a sense of transference.


He’s intimidated by your presence.


Maybe he is your “twin flame.”

The best way to handle any of these possibilities is to communicate back. That is -if you are interested.

The main reason can be rather elusive at first. If this is happening for the first time for you, keep in mind that close proximity studying each other’s facial features, and intense eye contact are typical of romantic relationships.

Consider prolonged eye contact a rather vulnerable position, and it’s a great way to offer up an opportunity to talk. If you are open to talking, you will be able to get to the bottom of the real reason he wants to connect.

A lot of men might stare, but if you ignore them, you signal that you aren’t interested, and hopefully, they will get the message. If you are trying to gauge all of the different types of eye contact and figure out the possible things it might mean, you may want to enlist the help of a relationship expert or enlist the help of a good friend to see what they think.

Example of intense eye contact between man and woman

In this image, you can see a man and woman making intense eye contact. The rest of the world is shut out. It’s almost as if there is a bubble around them.

If he makes prolonged eye contact but no smile, it could be a signal of sexual tension. If this is combined with a triangular gaze (he looks at one eye into then gazes into the next and then the mouth and back up to the eyes), he could be signaling he is ready to kiss you. A good way to find out is by leaning forward just a little bit.

Pay a lot of attention to the little things and uncover what the unique eye expression means. Intense eye gaze in social situations with a large group of people can have many possibilities. The good news is that you can always ask. Different situations may need to be handled differently. However, if you are out with a group of friends, there is no harm in investigating a little further.

Confident people generally will maintain good eye contact. So, don’t overthink it.

Paul Clukey

Paul is an author, business owner, online blogger, kite surfer, fitness enthusiast father of three, who loves personal development and spends his free time learning and implementing new concepts to grow personally and help others achieve success.

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