What is Confidence and Why is it Important? -Today we are going to unpack all of the aspects of the importance of confidence I can think of. We will explore what having a lack of confidence can lead to and the importance of feeling confident in your life.
Want to earn more, attract the right person into a relationship, succeed in business, find true happiness?
The key is confidence. But, not just any level of being self-confident, it’s important to have the right level. By the end of this article, you’ll be on your way of mastery. You’ll understand what being self-confident is all about, and what it is about confidence that other people know -that maybe, you haven’t figured out yet.
Others may tell you to fake it. I say be it.
Remember! the impersonation of feeling self-confident and being self-confident are two completely different things.
Also, being self-confident doesn’t mean being self-absorbed.
Being a self-confident individual brings with it a quietly aggressive zen-like state that others will notice.
In essence, you’ll become unmessable with, solid so – keep reading!
What can you expect out of spending your time reading this?
- Discover what a lack of confidence can do to you and the effects of low self-confidence
- Create a strategy to develop a great deal of confidence in yourself
- Understand how to have a strong level of confidence toward your abilities
- Know the benefits of confidence
- Short-cut your way to a healthy amount of self-confidence
- Discover what degree of self-confidence yields the best performance
- Hack the core of confidence and understand the origins of confidence
- Develop a true expression of confidence
- Become a leader – How confident people inspire confidence in others
- Experience how to have confidence in your abilities
- Discover the fastest way to develop confidence in yourself
- Deal with shame and confidence in our body image
- Find out how to have confidence in romantic relationships
- Hack the secret sauce of self-confidence
What does confidence mean anyways?
The Answer to these questions:
- and DEFINITELY!
Let’s face it – a human being is born with a certain personality (type) and disposition that will classify your baseline level of confidence, but the good news is that it CAN be developed.
So What is Self Confidence and Why is it Important?
Self-worth, self-doubt, and self-belief are all wrapped up in a pretty little package in a box in the human heart called trust – (one that we aren’t usually aware of).
How you trust yourself and others is a maze of filters and messages you were given growing up. It’s all connected, and it can be a mess.
To start untangling the tangled trust ball of yarn ask yourself:
- How do I get my sense of self-worth?
- Do I get it from people liking my social media posts or from my public accomplishments?
- Is it important for me to stay in my comfort zone?
- Could the things I do for attention show that I have low self-esteem?
- Am I relying on people to make me feel confident about myself?
- What was the main message I heard about myself from my friends and family growing up?
- Have I failed at most things or succeeded?
Ah, the things we do to feel important. No one has ever escaped this principle, and one of the things to remember is that you (and I) are not alone in our feelings, occasional low self-confidence and relying on others to make us feel better about ourselves is completely natural.
Further feeling like an imposter in your world is more common than uncommon. (read the article I wrote on dealing with impostor syndrome above)
But as you know, people can let you down. As the core of confidence grows in you, you will find that you will rely less and less on people (especially confident people) to provide you with the self-confidence you are looking for.
The problem with low self-confidence is that in many social situations, you don’t feel comfortable and this can lead you to be hyper-aware of yourself. You start thinking about how others perceive you and let the awkwardness begin. You start doing things that can be off-putting as a way to compensate for your uneasy feelings.
If you feel like you don’t have confidence, lack confidence, or just don’t have enough confidence, I’ll go over some tips to improving your confidence in the next section.
Becoming an independent, core confidence generating machine.
Most of us know that having just the right amount of self-confidence improves your performance. If you have struggled with depression and anxiety, low self-confidence could be to blame. The way we see ourselves on a subconscious level is the origin of our confidence. Often we are unaware of what we are thinking below the surface.
How much you believe in your strengths, talents, and own capabilities will determine how confident you are, and yes, this holds true for individuals who overestimate their abilities.
The only way that I discovered that I could generate a higher level of confidence is through practice.
This is where the fake it to make it folks are full of bad advice, to put it mildly.
There is a dose of truth in the statement, however. Self-confidence is built through action, not through conjecture, sitting on a lazy behind, and while repetitive affirmations, meditation, and prayer can help undo the subconscious programming that you have bubbling beneath the surface of your conscious mind, it’s of no use when developing true self-confidence.
I’m glad you asked. Just like a muscle is built in the gym, confidence is built by trial and error, taking risks, and putting yourself out there.
The good news is that you can start with baby steps. Your goal isn’t to make a fool of yourself.
It’s all about dealing with life’s circumstances and getting to know yourself as extraordinary, one act of resilience at a time.
Confidence is trust in yourself. Do you place trust in yourself?
Why self-confidence is important for you in business and in life.
Let me give you an example from this past week.
I got a call from a doctor friend of mine who I hadn’t spoken to in years. He said, “Paul I want you to talk to someone, would you be available for a conference call tomorrow night at 6:30p?” I said, “Sure.”
That next evening I’m on the phone with 4 people. 2 of the people were doctors who I’ve loosely known for years. The other 2?
The president of a company worth over $100,000,000… yes a (100 Million dollar company) and his second in command.
They were considering asking me for help with a potentially quite profitable business venture. Within a few minutes, I noticed myself starting to feel nervous.
I felt like a kid in braces again. You don’t want my help, I’m not the amazing guy you think I am.
A panic set in. I reminded myself… just calm down Paul.
You wouldn’t even be on the phone if you couldn’t help them. Set aside your self-doubt and pay attention to what they need, what they are asking. Be present. Get out of your head.
Just like breaking the sound barrier, I broke some kind of self-confidence barrier. I noticed how confidence comes out of these moments.
Finding these moments becomes quite easy as you continue on your path to self-discovery and self-confidence.
It’s normal to feel the lack of self-confidence shows up as you grow your self-confidence.
When you boil it down, self-confidence is about a choice. It’s a decision to stay in the moment and relax. Relax, trust, and recognize that the jitters are normal.
-You might be wondering, what if you didn’t know anything about what they are asking you about?
Being self-confident at that moment would have been more about “not pretending.” If you pretend to know something you know you don’t know, it’s inauthentic.
Self-confidence and authenticity go hand in hand. It’s a matter of value. As you can imagine when your communication lives in the skills of what you know, the reasons to retreat into fear fade away.
Everything gets easier as you embrace new challenges and take a step towards the thoughts, progress, and ideas of being complete, and trusting yourself.
At the end of the conversation, we discussed scheduling another call.
Sometimes you have to go through some self-assurance exercises in your mind to get to your goals. One way to hack this is to look at your body language. Is it weak, closed, small? Time to put some effort into opening up. Picture the person you respect the most.
Imitate their body language. What are their eyes doing? What effect and impact do they have on the individuals around them?
I hope you save and share the confidence infographic as a free resource to get you out of a pinch when you don’t feel confident.
It’s important to continually develop and head towards greater self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-respect. Even after you have achieved a high level of self-confidence, keep working towards improvement.
Personal growth is a commitment and working towards more confidence and growth takes a focus. With high self-confidence, however, comes more opportunities. You can expect opportunities in dating/romance, business, life, and achievement.
Remember the potential lives within you. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here reading this right now.